6 Laws of Maturity

Age has nothing to do with maturity.

Maturity happens when you acquire wisdom.

Wisdom usually comes with more life experience, but just because someone is older, doesn’t mean they have more wisdom.

It’s about a way of life that emits, happiness, peace, tranquility…

The 6 laws of maturity will help you understand how you can live your life in a peaceful and harmonious way.

Some laws may already be a part of your life, others you can adopt and enhance your quality of life.

From there, you may unlock something so subtle but powerful at the same time.

Let’s go through it.

Law 1 - Control yourself, not others

The world has always happened, it’s always happening, and it will always continue to happen regardless of your existence.

Situations, events, people, and all kinds of stimuli are happening at every moment - your quality of life completely depends on how you react to stimuli.

Reacting without awareness - an instant reaction caused by triggers which is usually expressed by anger - forces one to lose sense of oneself.

The mind becomes clouded. Emotions and feelings start flooding. Epinephrine is released and adrenaline kicks in.

At this point, you are like a massive snowball rolling down the hill out of control. And that is not a great place to be in.

Since most people don’t know how to manage their feelings, emotions, and mind, they’ll try to manage someone else.

The reality is that while it may work for a short period, eventually there will be confrontation because simply put, no one wants to be controlled.

True power, true strength lies not in the ability to control others but to manage and control oneself.

Everything is a stepping stone for you to get to know yourself better. Your triggers. Your insecurities. Your fears.

Look within first so you can consciously respond without.

Law 2 - Expect nothing, appreciate everything

Trade your expectations for appreciation.

It is a natural tendency of the mind to project and expect things of people or situations.

It is important to train your mind to view life as it is rather than what you want it to be.

The practice of gratitude or appreciation changes your neuron pathways.

When you rewire yourself to expect nothing and appreciate everything you begin to view life from a much wider lens.

You become more at peace and at ease, not just with yourself but also with your environment and those around you.

You begin to realize it’s not about someone or something - it’s all about you and how you respond.

Everyone deals with life differently.

Your expression of appreciation may be an uplifting act to someone else.

Words of appreciation to someone who holds the door for you may change that person’s mood for the rest of the day.

We tend to have expectations for our friends, our life partner, our parents, and when those expectations are not met we feel some type of way.

What if you change your perspective?

What if you simply appreciate them for who they are?

The whole dynamic changes.

And you can apply this to yourself as well. Even if it’s just spending 10-15 minutes doing something for yourself

• going for an outdoor walk

• writing down your thoughts in a journal

• stretching

• working on your project

Don’t expect to see drastic changes immediately, but do appreciate every little step taken forward.

This leads me to the next law.

Law 3 - Do your best and trust the process

The harder you work, the luckier you get.

What I mean by hard work is maintaining discipline. Most people don’t shine away from hard work, what most people do struggle with is maintaining consistent discipline (myself included).

It’s easy to get discouraged when you don’t see progress immediately. But the ones that have accomplished something in their life, always talk about one key thing - the long-term game. 

This separates those who want it from those who are in it for the wrong reasons.

“Rome wasn’t built in one day.”

All you can do is take one step at a time. Doesn’t matter how fast or slow. Just keep laying it down, brick by brick.

You begin to separate yourself from those who are in it for “quick results”.

This is where magic happens. All of a sudden you become lucky.

Things start to make sense. Right people appear in your life.

And you are an overnight success!!!

Because no one saw your previous years if not decades.

People always talk… There is a saying that goes something like this - the dogs bark but the caravan keeps moving.

• Some may agree with you, others not.

• Some will support, others not.

• Some will understand, others not.

The most important thing in whatever you do is to keep moving and

Law 4 - Learn to react less

When you control your reactions nobody can manipulate you.

We are emotional creatures. Feelings and emotions are what drive you and therefore create your life.

You wake up early, work out, come back take a cold shower, have a smoothie/coffee and you feel great!!!

(If you haven’t tried this routine I highly recommend it and see how you feel.)

But then, maybe someone at work says something that triggers you and this elicits an emotion (usually a negative one.)

If you respond to this emotional trigger, you simply hand your powers away and the day changes for the worst.

But if you learn to react less, you brush it off (with self-awareness and by realizing the emotions you are feeling, and choosing not to react) which enables you to maintain balance.

We see this in politics, sports, marketing, and sales - manipulating the audience to act based on triggered emotions and feelings.

If you follow the first law - control yourself - then you will be able to manage how you react.

Law 5 - Stop telling people everything

Most people don’t care, and some secretly don’t always want you to succeed.

As humans, we are all on different levels of consciousness. In a way, that’s what makes individuals, cultures, ethnicities, religions, etc unique.

Spiral dynamics is a model that was introduced by Clare W. Graves, an American development psychologist, who explains the different ways that individuals think and act based on beliefs and values.

Have you ever had a conversation with someone about a topic that is simple to you but not to the person you are talking to?

Well, that is because you are on different scales of understanding, or in the example of spiral dynamics, different color spectra.

This applies to individuals, organizations, cultures, religions…

Most people don’t have enough self-awareness to listen to someone else. Even if they do, they are probably already thinking about what they’re going to say as soon as you are done talking.

Simply put, keep it to yourself, unless someone is sincerely asking.

And if you do want to share it with someone, well then…

Law 6 - Choose your friends wisely

The fastest way to become better and achieve your results faster is to surround yourself with like-minded people.

First of all, you have to know yourself and more importantly, become comfortable with that.

If you know your values then you have the directions of your journey right in your hands.

Most people don’t know why and where they’re going. And if they do, chances are high that they’ll adjust their route based on their friends and those that they surround themselves with.

If you want to improve your life - in every aspect - how well do you think that will happen if all of your friends are constantly going out to party and drink.

How well do you think you will improve your skills - at anything - if none of your friends want to improve?

How well do you think you will become spiritually in tune with yourself if your friends are faithless?

Now try to apply the opposite of that.

Your quality of life improves much faster when you choose your friends wisely.

You cannot control how life will happen but you can control how you choose to respond. Control yourself, not others.

Life makes no mistakes even when you don’t understand it. Learn to expect nothing and appreciate everything.

Everything worthwhile takes time. Remember, it’s the long-term game that separates those who want it from those who are in it for the wrong reasons. Do your best and trust the process.

People will try to rattle you. Situations will happen that are not in your favor. That’s life. Learn to react less.

The others, don’t care about you as much as you might think. It’s just the truth. We make scenarios in our heads much bigger than they need to be. Stop telling people everything.

If you really want to share your progress or ideas that you have, then you must choose your friends wisely.

Adapt.

Improve.

Improvise.

That’s ChitLife.